[setsuna]

I have been together with my first boyfriend for almost 5 months and we are having sex pretty often.
The thing is that he is really concerned about me having "the big O" (vaginal orgasm) and it is upsetting him often if I don`t have one.
I am usually having clitoral orgasms - he almost always gets me to the end by going down on me with his fingers and tong but the problem is that I don`t know what vaginal orgasms should be like...
Lately when he is entering me and starting to move (also using his (or sometimes mine) fingers on my clit), I am gradually feeling the need to go to pee (okay, I know that is normal), but afterwards I sometimes get somehow "weird"... I am super sensitive and I am uncontrollably trembling from every touch and after trembling for some minutes, I am feeling extremely happy and smiling for a long time. We have tried to have a sex afterwards and he had problems while I had problems to reach clitoral orgasm (I somehow was not too sensitive at all)...

What kind of feeling is that? My bf once said that I have signs of having vaginal orgasm, but I somehow expect more from that...
I am pretty confused

[Ashlee T.]

The biggest thing he needs to understand is, stressing you about having one or not having one will most likely ELIMINATE the possibility of you having one. A woman must be able to feel relaxed and unpressured. He's treating you like a science experiment to boost his own ego. For a woman, it is NOT purely physical. And as long as you're feeling pressured about this, worrying about him being upset, etc....it's just not gonna happen.

[setsuna]

Well it is more like he wants me to feel good... I have heard that he fears that I will leave him if he will not be good in a bed and so sometimes he tends to blame himself...
I am pretty aware that I should be relaxed but still I have some thoughts like "maybe there is something wrong with me".. But it is usually afterwards... I tend to forget almost everything while I am having sex because I really enjoy it even though I don`t have vaginal orgasms...